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Why do Women fall for Bad Boys, Losers and Lost Causes?

2011-03-20T23:24:00.000-07:00

No woman ever wakes up in the morning and says to herself, “Today I am going to fall for a bad boy who will hurt me.”

Most often the men these women meet know how to make them feel wonderful.

Bad Boys are Usually good at Manipulating Women

The problem isn’t that the feelings of these women are wrong. The problem is that many of these guys are often very likable, charming, exciting and fun to be around, at first. These guys are usually good looking, sexy and masculine. They are good at forming a quick, emotional bond with these unsuspecting women. They are masters of manipulation. And they are used to getting what they want.

Though the common themes of why women like bad boys seems to be because they are, mysterious, indifferent, unpredictable, exciting and above all, sexy (check out my article, What Makes Evil so Damn Sexy, on my SEXYOUALL sexual advice blog).

In a survey asking women exactly why they date losers, the top 10 reasons were as follows:

Their bad boy attitude.
They don’t care what others think of them.
They tend to live adventurous exciting lifestyle. Safe or not.
Her friends or family don’t approve of them.
Their mysterious attitude is intriguing.
The emotional roller coaster the bad boy gives them is addicting.
She wants to change or tame him.
They seem to offer the greatest protection.
They don’t seem to like the woman, and she wants the attention or his love. (A challenge)
It’s a father figure issue.

What gets these women into trouble is that their feelings often cause them to ignore bad or inconsistent behavior that they would clearly see if they were not so emotionally involved.

Despite the tears and sleepless nights these men cause, they are never boring, routine or predictable. They provide plenty to talk about with friends over a Coke. But mostly they inflict misery. Jealousy. Paranoia. Sadness. Depression.

Many women spend months daydreaming of offering a sparkling insight, of putting on a sexy dress, or of telling a hilarious joke, to show their bad boy lover how incredible they are. Fantasize of changing them. Of how they would stop cheating, drinking or beating them, transforming into Prince Charming.

Many Women Dream of Rescuing Their Bad Boys

Women like this see their bad boys as a project, a work in progress, or even a life worth saving. After years of failed attempts, it finally dawns on many of these women to stop dating these types of guys. But by then, a lot of emotional and psychological damage has already been done.

This "Florence Nightingale Syndrome" involves women who try helping guys who refused to help themselves.

Thank God there is hope. Contrary to popular belief, women want the Nice Guy. I know you are probably cringing right now because everything you have felt and experienced so far suggests the opposite.

Most women who constantly dated bad boys end up being attracted to and even marrying the same boring, nice guys they used to turn their nose up at. The loyal, affectionate, reliable, successful, fun ones that do their share in a relationship.

They want to stop being miserable, nervous, jealous, and paranoid.

How to Stop Dating Bad Boy Losers and Lost Causes

If you're continually attracting bad men, you have a problem. Bad men are attracted to women they perceive they can abuse, emotionally or physically. Are you up for abuse?

If so, why?

Sit down, pour a cup of tea, and have a good chat with yourself. Why do you attract losers? Why do you find them attractive? If you find good men boring or 'too safe,' what does that say about you? Are you afraid of a real relationship.

Why?

Love advice: Write your answers on a piece of paper. Give them some thought. Ask yourself what kind of man would give you the peace and joy you truly deserve. Write that down, too. Use your second list as a litmus test. The next time you date a guy, ask yourself if he possesses the qualities you need to be happy.

Ask yourself if you're willing to be happy (not everybody is, you know). If your answer is yes, that's great. If you answer is no, ask yourself why.

What are you afraid of? What's stopping you? Are you willing to change?

Written By: Tom Retterbush

Sources

Why Do Women Fall For Bad Boys davidwygant.com

Love Advice for Women – Stop Dating Bad Boys and Attract the Love You Deserve healthguidance.org

Can You Die from a Broken Heart?

2011-03-14T01:52:00.000-07:00

Broken heart syndrome may often be confused with symptoms of a heart attack.

Understanding broken heart syndrome requires the understanding of how the body reacts to stress.

A Troubled Mind May Lead to a Broken Heart

The term "broken heart syndrome" came about after researchers noticed that many people with the condition were grieving, says Ilan Wittstein, MD, a Johns Hopkins University cardiologist who's been studying the condition for a decade.

"The first several patients we saw, many of them had [just experienced] the death of a loved one, a spouse, a parent. Some people started having symptoms at a funeral," he tells WebMD.

But other patients had just gone through a trauma like a car accident or a mugging. Another woman landed in the intensive care unit on her 60th birthday after being startled by well-wishers shouting "Surprise!" Wittstein says.

These types of events can trigger your sympathetic nervous system, which is also called your "fight or flight" mechanism, says Peter Shapiro, MD, a professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University who studies emotional issues in heart disease.

Your body unleashes a flood of chemicals, including adrenaline, he says. This sudden flood can stun your heart muscle, leaving it unable to pump properly.

So even though broken heart syndrome may feel like a heart attack, it's a very different problem that needs a different type of treatment.

The Broken Heart

Broken heart syndrome has yet another name: Takotsubo syndrome.

A tako-tsubo is a pot that's used in Japan for catching sea creatures. When Japanese researchers looked at images of people's hearts during broken heart syndrome, they noted that the left ventricle had taken on an unusual shape resembling the fishing pot.

During an episode of the condition, the heart muscle can be so profoundly affected that it can't pump blood out to the body strongly enough. As a result, the patient may develop heart failure. This can be life-threatening, Wittstein says.

The symptoms are so similar to those of a traditional heart attack that you, a paramedic, and even many ER doctors aren't going to know the difference, Wittstein says. They include:

Chest pain
Shortness of breath
Arm pain
Sweating

Because traditional heart attacks can be triggered by stress as well, you shouldn’t take any chances.

"If you're at home having chest pain, you shouldn't question whether this could be stress cardiomyopathy just because you're going through a stressful period. The take-home message is get to the hospital and let the doctors find out which one of these you’re having," Wittstein says.

Diagnosing a Broken Heart

Clues that may help lead your doctor to the right diagnosis are your age and gender. More than 90% of cases reported thus far have been in women.

It's especially common after menopause. Lisa Wysocky was 52 when she had her encounter with broken heart syndrome.

Some research suggests that about 2% of people who seem to be having a heart attack actually have broken heart syndrome. Among women, the number may be higher than 5%, Wittstein tells WebMD.

If you've just gone through grief, stress, or emotional trauma, mention it to your doctor, Wittstein says. Also bring up recent physical stress such as an asthma flare-up or low blood sugar, he says. These can also trigger the problem.

To diagnose broken heart syndrome, doctors usually perform an angiogram. This provides images of the major blood vessels that supply your heart. During a heart attack, one or more arteries are often blocked. But during broken heart syndrome, these blood vessels look OK.

Your doctor is likely going to want to also perform an echocardiogram. This takes pictures of your heart, which may reveal the tell-tale fishing pot shape.

Healing the Heart

A remarkable aspect of broken heart syndrome is that "someone can be critically ill on a Monday, and by Thursday can literally be preparing to go home," Wittstein says.

Their heart muscle also usually recovers fairly quickly. Neither is often the case after a major heart attack.

Afterward, people may need to take heart medications called beta blockers or ACE inhibitors for a limited time. However, experts don't know if these drugs are necessary for the long term, Wittstein says.

Since her episode, Lisa hasn't had any more heart problems, and she's only taking a low dose of an anti-anxiety drug. These days, she spends her time authoring books, helping people with disabilities ride horses, and leading a foundation in Colby's name. She's grateful that her doctors were able to diagnose her condition as a short-term problem.

"What was so reassuring to me was that the doctor didn't dismiss the symptoms just because I wasn't having a heart attack. He understood my symptoms were real. That was very comforting to me," she says.

Dont miss my next article, How to Mend a Broken Heart, comming soon.

Written By: Tom Retterbush

10 Top Signs She's A Gold Digger

2010-11-19T04:06:00.000-08:00

The gold digger's reason for hooking up is to gain material benefits from the guy she’s screwing, dating or marrying.

"If you have to ask yourself if she's a gold digger, she probably is," writes the gold digger expert at spotgolddiggers.com

"Generally, they are the type who prefer to wear Prada," writes VTCastle, "but for the life of them, couldn't tell you how to spell it.

They're not ashamed to flaunt their high profile status and alert you up front that you "have to pay to play" aside from the fact that her favorite phrase goes something like "my coochie is always dressed in Gucci!"

There are two basic types of Gold Diggers out there; the women who doesn’t give a shit about you at all, and the women who cares a little bit about you. The first is only interested in herself and what she can beg, borrow or steal from you. The second one probably likes you but will never love you.

1. She's out of your league

Your ego is boosted when you consider that she’s so much hotter than you are, but bear in mind that this could be a bad sign. No offense, but if she’s miles better looking than you are, you have to wonder what she’s hoping to gain from the relationship. If you happen to have a fat wallet to accompany your great head of hair, it could be a sign that she’s hoping to increase her wealth by association.

2. She treats you like a walking ATM machine

Every time you turn around, the new girlfriend has a crisis or need that requires money. You're a generous guy, so you don't mind helping her out. Yet, the little voice in your head is saying 'this chick thinks you are made of money.' Don't ignore it. If a woman treats you like an ATM machine and is always making financial withdrawals, she is a gold digger. The gold digger is eager for gifts that are caked with money, instead of sentimental value.

3. She never offers to pay

She never offers to pay and only says thank you when promted as if she’s entitled to your generosity. When the bill arrives at the table, she pretends it doesn’t exist. It’s always up to you to settle it, and she never even offers to pay or go Dutch. Basically, she takes it for granted that you’re a gentleman, and when it comes to shelling out money, you’re the one for the job.
4. She's curious about your finances

Your girlfriend has been interested in hearing about your career and financial status from day one. Though you might mistake her curiosity for interest in your life, she’s probably sussing you out to ensure you will be able to pay her way through the relationship.

5. She is status obsessed

She’ll regularly snub people whom she perceives as having a low status, like the homeless or those working in service jobs. On dates, she’s more likely to appear impressed if men tell her they own an Audi R8 than if they mention that they help out at soup kitchens on Sundays.

6. She hates other women

Always dressed in the finest clothing and looking gorgeous, the gold digger flaunts the fact that she likes to take care of herself. But it’s with other people’s money, of course. Since she places emphasis on her looks, she is wary of and competitive with other desirable women and dislikes their company if they are just as gorgeous or as status-endowed as she is. Clearly, her behavior is caught up in insecurity.

7. She uses her looks for short-term gain

She has to get to the front of the line at clubs, so she pops open a button on her cleavage-exposing top. She wants her neighbor to change her car tire so she won’t be late for lunch with the girls, so she walks over to him in a figure-flattering dress to make him drool. The gold digger uses her looks for short-term gain, and she probably charmed you that way too. But she doesn’t use her looks for long-term goals, simply because she doesn’t have any.

8. She doesn’t make you wear a condom

She doesn’t demand you wear a condom or “says” she will go on birth control early in the relationship. They hope to get pregnant, so they can use it to their financial advantage. You get the picture. A hard core digger will see kids as a lifelong financial insurance policy. Even a condom may not save you as there are digger “baby strategies” that can compromise the standard condom.

9. She climbs boyfriends

Instead of climbing the corporate ladder, the gold digger straps on her Manolos to use boyfriends as stepping stones. In fact, looking back on her relationship history, you’re likely to find that each guy she’s dated has been richer than the last. You’re her promotion to a more fabulous, expensive life.

10. Her friends are gold diggers

As the saying goes, you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep. If your girlfriend spends time with other women who seem to show signs of being gold diggers, or you’ve heard gossip about their behavior, chances are she could well be influenced by their tendencies. It’s a good idea to keep your hand on your wallet.

In Conclusion

If she plays the good role of a good girlfriend or wife too soon, you may also question her motives. If she cooks, cleans and washes or doesn't nag when you goe out with the guys you may want to review the above list. Why? Because this wuld make her too goo. Too anything is suspitious!

On the other hand, if you’re a rich, well-off or a financially stable guy and you’re questioning whether your girlfriend or wife is with you for the right reasons, well, maybe she is or maybe she isn’t. But then, maybe she’s just a smart, forward thinker who has similar ambitions to yours. Maybe you should give her some credit.

10 Ways Losers Impress Girls

2010-10-10T03:50:00.000-07:00

Guys have been doing dumbass things to impress the fairer sex since God first created Eve. So desperate are we to impress a certain woman that you start acting like a complete idiots...

These genius acts of seduction are in cronological order, so number 1 will be the absolute stupidest:

No.10 - Joining a band

So you stared up at a Jon Bon Jovi poster on your bedroom wall and daydreamed about how well he must do with the ladies – what with such a fine head of hair and such a nice shade of marbled denim. So you talked your old man into coughing up some funds for a few guitar lessons. And 10 years later you’re still crap and still dragging your friends along to sit through your excruciatingly painful gigs. And it’s not because you love music, it’s all because you thought it’d help you pick up. Nope

No.9 - Inflating Yourself

The only thing worse than the shy guy at the party is the shy guy who’s trying to act like the cool guy. If you’re shy, who cares? Run with it. You’ll look interesting. If you try too hard to act like the more confident guys around you -- because you think that’s what the girls will go for -- then you are underestimating their idiot radars. Unfortunately this isn’t something you can put on; some people are just more confident than others, but there’s nothing worse than someone acting like something they’re not.

No.7 - Lying

We’re not talking about the little white lies (number of sexual partners, anyone?), but more the whoppers that are inevitably going to unravel at some point and leave you red-faced and alone. Little details, like you are already seeing someone, are best out in the open. If you have to do it, keep your lies manageable and harmless, and trace back paths down which they might fail. Claiming to be a Wimbledon Tennis umpire is going to be a tricky one to back up, at least for one month every year.

No.6 - Taking her to places you know nothing about

The idea of a perfect date is to do an activity that is of interest to both parties. Under no circumstances should a guy stretch himself so far out of his comfort zone for the sake of a date that he leaves himself as transparent as glad-wrap. Example A: Don’t take a girl to an art exhibition if you have absolutely no interest in art and thus walk around the gallery sending texts to your mates about the loving that’s coming your way later that evening. Worst still would be to actually act like you know what you’re talking about – she’ll see straight through it

No.5 - Cooking when you're not good at it

They say that when it comes to cooking it’s really just the thought that counts. But tell that to the girl who’s eating raw chicken through a forced smile while her idiot date grins foolishly waiting for desert. If you know you’re useless in the kitchen then don’t offer to cook in order to impress a girl unless you can guarantee it’s impossible to screw up. If your date still thinks it’s the thought that counts when you serve up chicken and corn-flavoured Maggi noodles then she’s a keeper.

No.4 - Taking her to extreme sports

Date within your means. If your idea of an exciting day out is two-for-one beer jugs at the local Lawn Bowls Club, then maybe bungee jumping or sky diving isn’t quite your speed. Very few dates are worth your life. No dates are worth fainting, wetting your pants or vomiting on yourself. It’s not wise to try and impress a girl by pretending your alpha when you’re zeta at best -- you’ll only end up looking like the guy on the football field who stopped the play while the referee helped him look for his contact lens.

No.2 - Low riding your car

Guys who think a girl is going to lose her mind just because they’ve installed beaded seat covers in their Datsun -- welcome to our list. A car is the thing that gets you to the shops when it’s too far to walk and you couldn’t be bothered with public transport. The second you start thinking of it as a blank canvas for you to decorate your bogan mechanical art on, you’re done. Sure, get a nice stereo and one of those vanilla-scented Christmas trees for the rearview mirror but the words "custom bodykit" should only be used by a qualified mechanic.

No.2 - Wearing muscle T-shirts

If it’s Venice Beach in 1984 and you’re pumping iron while listening to Tone Loc, skip ahead; this doesn’t apply to you. For everyone else, do not under any circumstance fall into the misconception that a girl is going to go gaga for you just because you have the guns out and are offering free tickets. Great, you’re well built. Well done, you! If you must, take her to the beach and you’ll get in all the flexing you want. Otherwise, shirt please.

No.1 - Drinking too much

Who knows why it is that some blokes feel inclined to drink like they invented it whenever they’re trying to impress a new girl. Sure, the added confidence may let you get away with some lines your weaker self may have shied away from, but there’s a balance. Generally, the ballast to that balance is the point in which you’re in the bathroom screaming at the porcelain. OK, you’ve gone too far. Remember, all the good work your confidence spike gave you early in the night will be shattered by the image of you covered in vomit with a security guard under each arm.

5 Signs that a Guy Likes you

2010-10-03T18:53:00.000-07:00

How to Tell if a Guy Likes you 5 Signs He's Interested

How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people.

Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?

Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:

1. He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.

2. The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.

3. The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

4. He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

5. EVERYONE likes you

Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.

These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.

Written By: Tonja Weimer

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Sexy Funny lOl Pranks in Shop

2010-09-30T01:37:00.000-07:00

Flirting Tips for Women, by Dating advice expert, Dr. Diana Kirschner

2010-09-25T23:05:00.001-07:00

Dating advice expert, Dr. Diana Kirschner, assisted by blogger pup, Madison, teaches you simple yet powerful flirting tips designed to help you attract and date great men! Each dating advice webisode gives you three different flirting tips based on Dr. Diana's bestselling new dating book, Love in 90 Days. For a free dating advice course go to http://lovein90days.com and sign up in the Love Etips box. You will get 11 free dating tip lessons that help you feel more confident and ready for flirting and attracting the men you really want!

Does Dating Advice Really Help?

2010-09-25T22:56:00.000-07:00

Do Dating Advice And Tips Really Work?

Dating advice and tips can be found just about anywhere you look for them, but are they really beneficial to you?

Well, it really all depends on where you get these dating advice and tips. After all, if you've come across tips or advice that's offered by someone who still is in the dating scene themselves, it should make you wonder if these tips really work, why are they having a hard time with dating themselves?

It's all going to depend on why they offer the tips and what you do with these dating advice and tips. If the person offering the advice openly admits they still haven't figured out all there is to know about dating, but there are a couple of things they have found to work, you'll have to use your own discretion when deciding whether to utilize the advice or not. There's a good chance that the advice is nothing more than a small part to the huge puzzle so it may work, but it won't offer you all the answers.

Stop Looking to Find the Whole Picture from Dating Advice and Tips

The bottom line is that you'll never get the entire picture or find all the answers to your dating problems just from reading dating advice and tips. And another point to be made is that not all dating advice and tips will work for everyone. You'll need to be true to yourself, and don't use this advice or these tips if they just aren't you. You don't want to pretend to be someone you're not in order to utilize dating tips and advice, as eventually your true colors will show through and this can be something that will confuse the one you're dating.

After all, they'll wonder why all of a sudden you like things you didn't seem to like when they first met you, and vice versa. So, keep in mind that the only way dating advice and tips will work for you is to choose the ones that will let you be true to yourself and the one you're dating. Not doing this is probably the number one reason dating doesn't work out for many.

In the end, there is no short answer as to whether dating advice and tips really work. You'll need to decide for yourself if the source of these tips is reliable, and whether the advice and tips will let you keep your dignity and self confidence.

Written By: Ann Marier

About the Author: Ann Marier writes informative articles on general health issues providing helpful tips and advice. Her latest articles about dating include a dating guide for online dating and the possible dangers.

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20 Worst Pickup Lines in History

2010-09-23T00:20:00.000-07:00

Here they are, the 10 worst pick-up lines ever, voted by a panel of women, in reverse cronological order. That means the worst one is number 1.

20. You remind me so much of Pokemon that I just want to pick-at-choo.
19. I’m new in town. Can I have directions to your house?
18. I misplaced my Teddy Bear. Will you sleep with me?
17. Wow, your legs must be really tired because you have been running through my mind all night!
16. What’s that in your eye? Oh, it must be a twinkle from when our eyes met!
15. Did you clean your pants with Windex, because I can totally see myself in them.

14. Those must be space pants, because your legs are outta this world.
13. Hi, my name is Justin… Justin Credible.
12. I may not be Fred Flinstone, but can still make your Bedrock.
11. Is your name Visa, because you’re everywhere I want to be.
10. Are those space pants? Because your ass is out of this world.
9. Your dad must be a terrorist because he made a bomb.
8. If I was a fly, I'd land on you first. Because you're the sh*t.
7. Excuse me, can you give me directions...
6. Oh, excuse me, but I think you dropped something.
5. My penis just died; can I bury it in your ass?
4. Hey, you look really fun - I had to come talk to you.
3. I just wanted to see if I could make you come with one finger
2. Does this smell like chloroform to you?
1. My love for you is like diarrhea - I just can't keep it in.

10 Most Bizarre Dating Websites

2010-09-22T23:36:00.000-07:00

Match.com and eHarmony are what people typically think of when online dating is mentioned. Yet, these sites don’t cater to the more bizarre or niche category of people who don’t fit this bland kind of dating. Whether it’s Singlesnet, PlentyofFish and the like it’s pretty much the same routine: take 1,000 pictures of yourself, choose two or three that stand out, write up a blurb on how awesome you are and you have at it! But what of the atypical markets? Are there homes for them? These ten sites are a pretty good indication that there is room for us all. Due to the subjective nature of people’s fetishes, this list is no specific order.

10. Ashley Madison Agency

This site, dedicated to married/single folks seeking out “arrangements” with other married folks, sadly has 4,255,000 members. This site recently took off in America and was like a rash over popular radio station commercial breaks and contains the tagline: “Life is short. Have an affair!” The site GUARANTEES an affair if you sign up, although they do mention in their disclaimer that they are not personally held liable for personal injury or death that should happen to you if you use their services. Which, unfortunately, will be an unexpected guarantee as well.

9. Scientific Match

At a measly $2000 for a lifetime membership, this site boasts that it will find you a match based on PHYSICAL chemistry. Their CLIA/ASH-accredited lab analyzes your supplied DNA sample (immune system genes) to find that perfect someone, and then destroy it after they’re done with it. What are the benefits of DNA comparison?
* Chances are increased that you’ll love the natural body fragrance of your matches.
* You have a greater chance of a more satisfying sex life.
* Women tend to enjoy a higher rate of orgasms with their partners.
* Women have a much lower chance of cheating in their exclusive relationships.
* Couples tend to have higher rates of fertility.
* All other things being equal, couples have a greater chance of having healthier children with more robust immune sytems.

8. Women Behind Bars

You have a better than average chance at hooking up here for obvious reasons. Unfortunately, the site doesn’t list what these women’s offenses were to land them in prison, so you’re taking your chances. Surprisingly, if you get a chance to read the “What People are Saying About Us” page, the percentage is high for satisfied customers. Price-wise, it costs you a mere 3 dollars to obtain one address where you can converse via snail mail. The site even has an “Add to Cart” and “Checkout” button after you’re done shopping for your badass beauties! A huge plus is you can pretty much rely on the fact that they’re not going to cheat on you with your best friend. Or anyone else for that matter.

7. Tall Friends

If you happen to suffer from tinyophobia (the fear of little people), you might want to check this site out. It specifically caters to like-minded singles who are of a specific height, meaning TALL. Verbatim, their introduction is: “Welcome to the best, largest and most effective tall dating site in the world. This is the best place for looking for tall dating relationship or marriage. We bring together tall-dating minded singles from USA, UK, Canada, Australia, Europe and more. Here you could mingle with tall singles, tall beautiful women and tall handsome men.”
Other than meeting the height criteria, the site is standard fare with chat, forums, and the like. As an alternative there is a dating site for short people that can be found here.

6. No Longer Lonely

Are you schizophrenic? Do you suffer from paranoia? Do you play with your own waste with great delight? Well, thankfully a site has been created to match up people with histories of mental illness. Costing nothing to join with full access to all of its features, No Longer Lonely boasts it’s the only dating site of its kind. Now what could possibly go wrong here? And as an alternative, here’s a site for people suffering with an STD. Now if only they would combine these two.

5. Trek Passions

Here you can find that special someone who can debate whether Jean-Luc or James T. was the better captain, and then go snuggle under your Ewok/Death Star matching sheets. From the homepage “A 100% free online community and SciFi personals site for science fiction lovers, including but not limited to lovers of Star Trek and Star Wars.” Its tagline is: “Love long and Prosper!” Just remember to have your partner checked for Tribble infestation before becoming, *ahem*, intimate.

4. Darwin Dating

Yes, online dating has been reduced to the shallowest end of the mudpuddle with this matchmaking service. The criteria to join is STRICT as they allow “beautiful people only.” And that doesn’t include inner beauty. They even include what they affectionately call the “Chimp Calculator” to test your unattractiveness level! Their tagline? “Online dating minus ugly people.” One can only imagine how much Photoshopping has been done to these profiles!

3. 420 Dating

For those of you who have been living on the moon as of late, the term “420 friendly” is slang for “I smoke weed.” Finally, the stoners have an online community where you can find someoneyou can share the munchies with. Strangely enough, the site’s Terms of Service page states: “The following is a partial list of the kind of Content that is illegal or prohibited on the Website. It includes Content that promotes information that you know is false, misleading or promotes illegal activities. It also states at the bottom of the landing page” 420dating.com does not advocate the use of any illegal substances.” And yet on the front page are photos of the latest “Featured Smokers” enjoying a nice healthy dose of hydroponics. Uhhhh, what?

2. Crazy Blind Date

This site is for intrepid souls only! In a nutshell, you are not allowed to see any photos of your potential dates beforehand and the service will match you up according to where you live. At the time of this review, the website only boasted eight major U.S. cities, but there is an option to select your own location to see if they have a listing. There are three options to choose from: a solo date, a double date, or you don’t care. The novelty steps in when you next have the option of going out on a date that very same night! Next, you select the area in your chosen city you wish to go to, then sit back and wait for an e-mail confirmation that the date is scheduled. Not for the faint of heart!

1. Daily Diapers

No, this isn’t a site for the aged and infirm wearing Depends. It’s the internet’s premiere FREE community for Adult Babies, Diaper Lovers, Big Kids, and fetishists galore who relish returning to a more peaceful time in their life: childhood. Apparently, these adult children grew up wearing plastic pants and “sissy clothes” as well. According to the site: “Adult Babies like to wear diapers, but also enjoy other babyish things. They may wear baby or sissy clothes such as Onesie-like snap-crotch T-shirts, rompers or play suits. They tend to like more colorful diaper covers and even frilly ruffled panty-style covers. Adult Babies may also enjoy drinking formula from baby bottles, or eating baby food. Generally they like to be treated totally like a baby during this play time, being changed, bathed, and even spanked by their partner who serves as their Mommy or Daddy.” There’s one out there for us all, eh?

Source: Listverse; for lists of just about anything, go to listverse.com

How to Stop the Fighting: Can't we just get along Tips for Couples

2010-09-22T22:03:00.000-07:00

"Everyone in a relationship argues," says Debbie Mandel, author of Addicted to Stress. "However, how loudly you scream or how frequently you fight does not predict the outcome of your marriage."

What qualifies as fighting fair in marriage essentially comes down to how each partner feels when they leave the ring. If both are hearty "boxers," who love a few rounds in the ring and then are ready for some make-up sex, the marriage is probably fine.

But if people leave the ring angry, bitter, and resentful, perhaps it's time to re-evaluate, either together or with the help of a therapist or psychologist.

And what if a careful, logical analysis of your fights still doesn't stop your anger about dishes left in the family room? What's some real-life advice for couples who might experience more marriage disagreements during these trying economic times?

Suggestions for Keeping the Peace:

Don't go to bed angry.

Several therapists and couples said forget that adage about always resolving anger before turning in -- and let someone sleep on the couch. "We've found that going to bed angry is often the best choice," said Lisa Earle McLeod, an author and 23-year marriage veteran. "It allows partners to clear their thoughts, get some sleep, and make a date to resume the fight (which might seem less important in the light of day).
Take a break. Even a 30-second break can help a couple push the reset button on a fight, says Timothy Warneka, a licensed clinical counselor. "Stop, step out of the room, and reconnect when everyone's a little calmer."

Own up

Melody Brooke, a licensed marriage and family therapist, says two things derail intense fights: admitting what you did to get your partner ticked off, and expressing empathy toward your partner. Brooke, author of The Blame Game, says this can be difficult but typically is extremely successful. "Letting down our defenses in the heat of battle, seems counterintuitive, but is actually very effective with couples."

Humor

Pamela Bodley and her husband, of Yonkers, N.Y., have also been married 23 years, "and Lord knows it [wasn't] easy in the early years ... but it's much, much better now. We have a great sense of humor." Her husband, Paul, has kept the mood light by always saying he knows women keep skillets in their purse. So when he does something wrong, Bodley says, "I just pretend to hit him over the head with a skillet and say, 'TING!'"

Touch

Brooke says there's a point where discussing the matter doesn't help. So couples need to just hold each other when nothing else seems to be working. "Reconnecting through touch is very important."
Ban the "but." Couples often derail a resolution when they try to acknowledge the other partner's position, but then add a "but" in their next breath and reaffirm their position, says Jane Straus, author of Enough is Enough! Stop Enduring and Start Living Your Extraordinary Life. An example: I can understand why you didn't pick up the dishes in the family room, but why do you think I'm the maid?

Remember what's important

"We soon realized that we don't have two beings in a marriage, we actually have three: me, my husband, and the marriage. And we have to take good care of all three of us," says Jacqueline Freeman of Battle Ground, Wash."So if we've been arguing about whose fault it is that the house is so messy, I might defend myself saying I was busy working a project that will bring in more income, and he might say he was busy fixing something on the house that was broken. ... We used to be able to carry a conversation like this for quite some time, but over the years, we seem to have developed a 15-minute timer for arguing ... when one of us will suddenly remember the key question: What's best for the marriage?"
Suggestions for Keeping the Peace continued...

And therapists also say that it's important to realize that no marriage is perfect and that fighting is often part of the ebb and flow of compromise.

"I have come to realize that we are not normal," Robbins says. "But as they say, 'Normal is just a cycle on the washing machine.'"

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Way too much Time Alone [pic]

2010-09-12T22:10:00.000-07:00

10 Things NOT to do on a 1st Date [video]

2010-09-12T07:44:00.000-07:00

With 271,358 visits, this is definately a very popular video, and though the title is 10 Things NOT to do on a 1st Date, I suggest you don't do them on ANY date, period. At least not if you want the relationship to go anywhere.

How to Win back Your Ex

2010-09-06T21:04:00.000-07:00

You can shout, pout or even cry, but if you really want her back you're going to have to come up with something better than that!

Here are some proven strategies that have been shown to work:

Relationships are intended to be given importance and valued in order to have a strong and long term faith. When you are unable to handle the misunderstandings and problems maturely, that results into a break up. Breakup is a real dreadful situation for the one who faces it. It’s not really easy to come out of it. All you are left with is pain, sorrows and when you suddenly start missing your ex and you can’t hear her or meet her, the feeling really kills you. If you truly love your ex girlfriend and want to get her back, I am here to help you. I will give you great ideas about getting your ex girlfriend back.

After having a breakup due to any reason, guys often feel sorry for their rude behavior over their ex girlfriends and plan up to get their ex girlfriends back. But some of them lose hope and sit back crying and feeling blue. I am here to day to make you know some interesting ways to get your ex girlfriend back soon. The very first thing to get your e girlfriend back to you forever is try getting stronger and don’t get emotionally carried away. I know guys, emotions play a vital role in a breakup but this is the time to make yourself strong and relax yourselves with al that you love doing.

If you give some pace to yourself and your friends you will surely come out of this troubling breakup situation. So try to be strong and think about how to get your ex girlfriend back instead of crying and feeling blue. Another good trick you can use to get your ex girlfriend back is make her recollect and think about all the good times you have spent. You can do this by showing her a romantic film. If she sees other couples moving around, she will surely remember you and start missing you. When she misses you she will look up all your messages and gifts you have given her and will definitely start thinking about you all over gain.

Making her feel jealous to get her back is also very important. You can spend time with all beautiful girls. Ignore your ex girlfriend presence so that feels jealous and neglected. Gather your group and have pleasurable time, look happy and enjoy even though you are not, in reality. Don’t make this act noticeable. She will surely feel jealous and run back to you when she notices you getting well along with other friends of his. Her questioning you will make you feel that she wants to get you back forever.

All these are interesting and easy ways to get your ex girlfriend back. Learn to implement the tricks which will be a benefiting option to you to get her back. If she truly loves you and still feels the same for you, she will get back to you and value the relationship as always. So now forget the sadness and start your life with a brand new start.

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The Art of Kissing (5 mil. views!)

2010-09-03T00:13:00.000-07:00

Apparantly, everybody wants to be a good kisser, considering this video recieved 4,956,302, almost 5 million views! The question is, do you want to be a fabulous kisser and leave them begging for more? Follow our proven kissing tips and secret kissing techniques to kiss them with passion and have them coming back for more! Learn the secret to kissing, french kissing, tongue kissing and more with co-authors of How to get the man you want / How to get the woman you want Katia Loisel-Furey and Paul Morris Segal.

If this video doesn't do it for you, I have The Art of Kissing as an ebook from Hugh Morris, as well as lots of free online dating ebooks, adult ebooks and classic erotica ebooks available without sign-up, sign-in or any other obligations whatsoever, from my main website, AssEtEbooks.com.

5 Facebook Dating Dos and Don’ts

2010-09-02T13:48:00.000-07:00

Facebook is a great way to meet women. It can also destroy any chance you might have had with that certain woman.

That’s why there are must follow rules you need to abide by to make sure you dont sabotaging your relationships before they ever even get off the ground. For example, if your romantic signature involves "Mafia Wars", you are not getting anywhere, except maybe with a "gangsta" chick.

Recognize the dos and don’ts of Facebook dating, however, and you’ll experience fewer headaches, heartaches and humiliations.

1. Don't friend her too soon

There are plenty of creepy dudes perusing Facebook pictures and sending friend requests to hot girls. Don’t be one of them .If you send a friend request before you’ve had a conversation or introduction, she will be weirded out. If your date is a set-up, don’t friend her before you meet. And if you met her when you were out one night, make sure she actually gave you her last name before you send a friend request. A good rule of thumb: If you have her phone number, you can be her Facebook friend.

2. Don't make a nuisance of yourself

If she isn’t responding to your private message, instant message —never IM someone you haven’t contacted before — or wall comment, don’t keep bugging her. Let her respond to you.

3. Be real

Just because you discovered she’s into indie rock and foreign films by scouring her Info page doesn’t mean you should pretend to be into the same stuff or be the first one to bring them up—it’s better to let her tell you about her interests organically.

4. Assume that everyone she knows is on Facebook

We mean everyone–her grandmother, her niece, her boss. This means you can’t write something inappropriate on her wall or tag her in an incriminating picture. If you embarrass her in front of important people, you can kiss your chances with her goodbye.

5. Take it offline

Facebook can be a great way to flirt or to make some awkward beginning stages of a relationship slightly less so. But use it sparingly; if you interact too much electronically in the beginning, it becomes more difficult to establish your in-person relationship.

There you have it, the skinny on Facebook dating, one of the best places to meet women online.

Sorry, I don't have a Facebook guide or ebook for you, but I do have lots of completely free ebooks, including, "Twiduction; How to Meet Women on Twitter", along with lots more free online dating ebooks, adult ebooks and classic erotica ebooks available without sign-up, sign-in or any other obligations whatsoever, from my main website, AssEtEbooks.com.

25 Best Online Dating Sites

2010-09-02T11:58:00.000-07:00

As an independent blogger, I have posted for you the absolute best nonpartisan online dating site reviews available of only the best dating sites, singles sites and personal ads sites.

All the dating sites listed bellow have been under reviewe and all rank in the top 25 of internet dating sites. The rankings are based upon editorial ratings of each of the dating websites and user input from comments. I challenge and welcome all visitors to add user reviews to the dating site reviews of their choice and help accurately list the best dating sites online.

1. adultfriendfinder.com

If you are looking for something more intimate than just a date then you should check out Adult Friend Finder. Here you will find thousands of like minded adults with sexy photos, seeking affairs, discrete relationships and sexual encounters. Best of all it's free to register so what are you waiting for?

2. perfectmatch.com

If you are seeking your perfect match then look no further! Featuring millions of registered members, Perfect Match is packed with fantastic features which makes it stand out from all the other dating sites. Sign up today for your free compatibility profile - you won't be disappointed!

3. eharmony.com

Eharmony have millions of registered members but there is no need to trawl through loads of unsuitable profiles to find your match. Their compatibility matching system means you see only a select group of singles with whom you have lots in common. Try it out today - it's free to join and check out your matches!

4. getiton.com

GetInOn.com gives you the opportunity to chat and meet with sexy individuals who have the same sexual preferences as you. Whether you are looking for a single-night sexual encounter or a lasting affair, you will find thousands of steamy options through Get It On! From looking through photos and videos to live webcam chats, I was able find a partner who I can hook up with and share my intimate fantasies.

5. ashleymadison.com

The Ashley Madison Agency is targeted toward people who are bored in their current relationship. They want people to know that when monogamy becomes monotony, there are other options out there. It is the largest dating site in the world and 100% secure and confidential for those looking to hide their extracurricular activities. Take a look- it is absolutely free to view member profiles and exchange photos.

6. lavalife.com

Lavalife is one of the largest online dating sites around, claiming to have 15 million members. I liked the choice of three categories Dating, Relationship or Intimate which allow you to decide what level of relationship you would like to search for. I was also impressed by the various ways in which you can communicate with other singles on the site including email, IM, video webcam, Lavalife by phone and Lavalife mobile.

7. Anastasia International.com

For men looking for an international affair, AnastasiaWeb is one of the world's largest Russian-American Introduction and Romance Tour Companies. There are over 23,000 women who belong to AnastasiaWeb, and it is the fastest and most efficient way for men to communicate with Ladies throughout the former USSR. AnastasiaWeb has organized more than 200 tours that have led to many marriages!

8. personals.yahoo.com

Yahoo personals is a fantastic picture personals site, as you would expect from one of the world\\\'s busiest search engines. I found it very easy and quick to navigate and there were lots of profiles from people I would like to meet. The registration procedure was easy and I was soon chatting to some nice people.

9. friendfinder.com

Friend Finder is one of the best dating sites you will find. The registration procedure is clear and simple and once you have joined there are lots of interesting profiles to browse through, all with pictures. I quickly found many people I was interested in getting to know and I highly recommend you give it a try. It won't even cost you anything as it's free to join.

10. match.com

I first came across Match.com some time ago and it just keeps on getting better. Lots of good quality singles with photos and I loved the fact that you can include up to ten pictures on your profile. It is definitely one of the top 10 dating sites. Again, it's free to register so what do you have to lose?

11. sugardaddie.com

The SugarDaddie website is aimed at people who are either seeking a richer person to pamper them, or conversely for richer people looking for someone to lavish gifts upon. When you do a search you specify \"golddiggers\" or \"sugardaddies\" (or \"sugarmommies\"). At least you can be honest about what you are really looking for!

12. matchmaker.com

Matchmaker has been around for a long time and is owned by Lycos so as you would expect it's a very well developed site. I found the registration process was quick and easy and I was soon searching through lots of picture personals in my area. A nice touch is being able to record a voice greeting.

13. easyflirt.com

Easy Flirt just keeps getting better! Now with over 7 million members and boasting some fantastic features like webcam chat, you must visit this dating site if you are serious about meeting someone new. I found the registration process quick and painless and I was soon chatting to several interesting singles. Highly recommended!

14. gay.com

Meet other Gay.com members who are looking for more than just a hook-up. They claim to be the hottest LGBT community online, so it's worth a shot. You can join for free, and quickly search millions of profiles.

15. mate1.com

Mate1 has 20.5 million profiles- all free for the searching. Members have access to photo profiles, voice recordings, discreet e-mail, and one-on-one chat. You can become a guest member at no cost and upgrade your membership later if you think youï¿½ve made a love connection.

16. mingles.com

I was very impressed by this site, it is packed full of features as you would expect of a site that makes it into the best dating sites guide. I was especially impressed by the advice section which gave me some great tips on posting a better profile and advice on what to wear for a date.

17. wealthymen.com

For all those ladies seeking a bonified sugar daddy, wealthy men.com is the one and only online personals site for men and women who are seeking a higher standard of online dating. Women can look for succesful men who make over $100K a year, and men will receive many more emails on this dating site than any other. Visit now, to browse profiles without even signing up!

18. singlesnet.com

I was very impressed by SinglesNet, it was a breeze to sign up and the site is very well laid out and easy to navigate. There were lots and lots of attractive singles I was able to chat to and best of all they are currently offering a 100% free trial period so you don\'t have to spend a penny to join!

19. blacksingles.com

Specifically catering for people of color, blacksingles.com is an on-line community, not just another dating site. I was quickly able to search through the personal ads and find some good matches, with and without pictures.

20. christianmingle.com

On christianmingle, In just minutes, you can find others in your area who share your values and love for God. If you have considered trying Christian Dating online, then Christian Mingle is the site for you. Christian Mingle is an online community created specifically for Christian singles looking to find friends, romance, or marriage.

21. great-expectations.com

You won't find any poor quality profiles at Great Expectations. All the members are intelligent, attractive professionals and new accounts are vetted to maintain the high standards you find there. There are some great features here such as the thousands of member videos and and invites to private social events.

22. jdate.com

There aren't many dating sites specifically for the Jewish singles community but JDate is the best one I have found. This site is not just about dating, it also features advice and details of upcoming events. The dating search facility was very good and the site generally looks very well thought out.

23. americansingles.com

Americansingles.com has millions of members from all walks of life, backgrounds, professions and ages who are looking for others to share their experiences with. New singles are joining and making connections everyday! Sign up now to create a free profile, post up to 4 photos, and browse potential soulmates.

24. interracialsingles.net

This online personals site is for interracial singles or those seeking an interracial relationship. Members have access to chat rooms, instant messaging, photo galleries, and more. This comfortable, welcoming interracial community welcomes people from all walks of life. If you're looking for a multicultural dating experience, this is the place to start your search.

25. date.com

Described as the community with millions of singles, date.com does not disappoint. Once you find someone you are interested in, simply click the show interest link and they will be informed of your interest. If they are interested in you then get chatting and see what happens! I also liked the community area featuring dating tips and a whole host of other interesting stuff.

Source: 100bestdatingsites.com, Your independent guide to the best dating sites.