Most often the men these women meet know how to make them feel wonderful.
Bad Boys are Usually good at Manipulating Women
The problem isn’t that the feelings of these women are wrong. The problem is that many of these guys are often very likable, charming, exciting and fun to be around, at first. These guys are usually good looking, sexy and masculine. They are good at forming a quick, emotional bond with these unsuspecting women. They are masters of manipulation. And they are used to getting what they want.
Though the common themes of why women like bad boys seems to be because they are, mysterious, indifferent, unpredictable, exciting and above all, sexy (check out my article, What Makes Evil so Damn Sexy, on my SEXYOUALL sexual advice blog).
In a survey asking women exactly why they date losers, the top 10 reasons were as follows:
- Their bad boy attitude.
- They don’t care what others think of them.
- They tend to live adventurous exciting lifestyle. Safe or not.
- Her friends or family don’t approve of them.
- Their mysterious attitude is intriguing.
- The emotional roller coaster the bad boy gives them is addicting.
- She wants to change or tame him.
- They seem to offer the greatest protection.
- They don’t seem to like the woman, and she wants the attention or his love. (A challenge)
- It’s a father figure issue.
Despite the tears and sleepless nights these men cause, they are never boring, routine or predictable. They provide plenty to talk about with friends over a Coke. But mostly they inflict misery. Jealousy. Paranoia. Sadness. Depression.
Many women spend months daydreaming of offering a sparkling insight, of putting on a sexy dress, or of telling a hilarious joke, to show their bad boy lover how incredible they are. Fantasize of changing them. Of how they would stop cheating, drinking or beating them, transforming into Prince Charming.
Many Women Dream of Rescuing Their Bad Boys
This "Florence Nightingale Syndrome" involves women who try helping guys who refused to help themselves.
Thank God there is hope. Contrary to popular belief, women want the Nice Guy. I know you are probably cringing right now because everything you have felt and experienced so far suggests the opposite.
Most women who constantly dated bad boys end up being attracted to and even marrying the same boring, nice guys they used to turn their nose up at. The loyal, affectionate, reliable, successful, fun ones that do their share in a relationship.
They want to stop being miserable, nervous, jealous, and paranoid.
How to Stop Dating Bad Boy Losers and Lost Causes
If you're continually attracting bad men, you have a problem. Bad men are attracted to women they perceive they can abuse, emotionally or physically. Are you up for abuse?
If so, why?
Sit down, pour a cup of tea, and have a good chat with yourself. Why do you attract losers? Why do you find them attractive? If you find good men boring or 'too safe,' what does that say about you? Are you afraid of a real relationship.
Love advice: Write your answers on a piece of paper. Give them some thought. Ask yourself what kind of man would give you the peace and joy you truly deserve. Write that down, too. Use your second list as a litmus test. The next time you date a guy, ask yourself if he possesses the qualities you need to be happy.
Ask yourself if you're willing to be happy (not everybody is, you know). If your answer is yes, that's great. If you answer is no, ask yourself why.
What are you afraid of? What's stopping you? Are you willing to change?
Written By: Tom Retterbush
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